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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] dosse91@lemmy.trippy.pizza 27 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It gets better bro.

I'm 33 and I was in a worse situation:

Started getting depressed in 2011 at the age of 20
Graduated in CS in 2016, super late, but with top grades
Started working as a software developer, hated it
For a few years I switched between working in a local computer shop and uni to get a master's degree
Again, I graduated super late in 2021 but with top grades
Still hated working as a developer and now hated working as a technician too
At the end of 2021, I got a call from my old high school, they needed someone to teach programming
Decide to give it a try, absolutely love it
Suddenly, depression is gone and I have a reason to get up in the morning
A 10 year old nightmare is over, still single though

[–] init@lemmy.ml 4 points 10 months ago

Be careful. That last one can turn into a nightmare too if it's the wrong person.