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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I didn't stress. I avoided stress. When my classes got too stressful I stopped going. When paying for school got too stressful I dropped out. When working my shitty computer tech job got too stressful I went down to part-time and started falling behind on rent. When I lost the apartment, telling my family was too stressful so I just became homeless for a while.

That was the crisis. That was the lowest point.

Maybe tolerating just a little more stress would have been good for me.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I can relate to this. I have (as of yet) uncured ADHD and back when I was living alone, I didn't manage to find a flat in time when the contract on my old one finished, because apparently searching for flats online isn't a simulating activity. Welp, if you ever do find yourself spending a night in a disabled restroom, a coat does not make a good blanket.