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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] adam_y@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I just want to add some context as a person that's going grey.

You are still incredibly young in your 20s. There's still so much time left for you.

It's the ideal time to drop out. Think things over and find some purpose or direction.

Or not.

So much is made about knowing your course in life, when often learning to drift the right way can be far more enjoyable.

So yeah, not exactly a call to hedonism, but try to find what you enjoy and where your ambition lies then make positive steps to get there.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Mmm yes. Sometimes I wonder how bad it would really be if I quit everything and just started drifting without a plan. Because I think I currently have a subconscious bias that keeps pushing me towards higher paying jobs and the security (but stress & monotony) that comes with them. It would certainly pop a few illusions in my head.