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I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[–] exocrinous@lemm.ee -1 points 10 months ago

Antimoderation seems to be the norm on Lemmy. For example, I was banned from Beehaw for being "pompous". I have narcissistic personality disorder, and being pompous is a symptom. It's a disability that interferes with my ability to display humility. I was being nice, kind, following the rules, doing what I was told, trying to resolve problems peacefully, and the admins said I was pompous and banned me. NPD isn't a disability when it comes to kindness, morals, ethics, or prosocial behaviour. But I can't turn being pompous off, any more than I can turn being weird off as an autistic person.