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how can I develop a thick skin? (feddit.de)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by lompedtfre@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn't show up. I'm pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.

I've sent her a polite message, asking if she's sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won't treat me.

Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn't it bother you?

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Rub the skin area often and frequently, it'll grow thicker with time

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn’t it bother you?

Get smarter. Back when I was younger, I'd often go on a date only to meet a ghost. Took me 2 times to learn to call the girl 30 minutes before the date to confirm if it was still up. No answer? I'm not getting out.

Your case was a professional appointment. I don't suppose your therapist said she wouldn't be available today? If she didn't, that's her fault. When you manage to meet her face to face, calmly state that it made her look unprofessional (if she gets upset at that, well, she's not a good professional, imo)

In the meantime, just remember that whatever gets you worked up will be thrown into your face, either by life, internet randos or something else. Feeling angry is addicting, but it's pointless most of the time.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 8 points 10 months ago

No! Calmly state that it made you feel unsafe. There’s no reason to go straight to a character attack; any competent adult will recognize they fucked up when another tells them that their actions made them feel bad.