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how can I develop a thick skin? (feddit.de)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by lompedtfre@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn't show up. I'm pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.

I've sent her a polite message, asking if she's sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won't treat me.

Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn't it bother you?

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[–] EponymousBosh@beehaw.org 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You're allowed to be annoyed by it. That's an annoying thing to have happen. But yelling at her won't fix the situation, and as you've already noted, is only going to make things worse. Feeling angry is OK. Taking it out on someone else is not.

Can you take that emotion and do something else with it? Make a piece of art, play a shoot 'em up game, listen to an angry song, etc?

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 6 points 10 months ago

Incidentally, learning to address disrespect in a respectful manner is a good step on the path to being less reactive.

It’s better to address things early and calmly than to do it late and in anger. Achieving more respect from others will reduce reactivity and sensitivity to insult and loss.