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First of all, men dying early from overdoses, suicide, risky behavior, certainly IS a topic worth discussing. It needs to change.

In discussing the topic, however, several people (including me) have pointed out that it's a problem only men can solve. They need to be more emotionally open, more willing to ask for help, more vulnerable to friendships and emotional connection with other men and women they don't want to sleep with. Such suggestions are heavily downvoted and met with "can you imagine if people said that to women about women's issues?!?"

But here's the thing. Women's issues are being raped, beaten by their husbands, murdered, treated like dirt in the workforce, having the safe spaces they carve out for themselves invaded, being discounted when seeking medical care, being paid less for doing the same work, being expected to take care of everyone else instead of themselves. Except for maybe that last point, they are all issues that are being done to them by men. Women can't stop men from being violent.

And women-only spaces are typically used to commune, to feel safe. Men-only spaces are used to exploit and consume women. They aren't equivalent.

But the issues for men are largely being done to themselves by themselves. Suicide and drug addiction are self-inflicted. Women can't stop men from harming themselves any more than they can stop them from harming women. It's not an equivalent problem.

With more people joining Lemmy and other decentralised networks there is a growing shift to the common misogyny and sexism we find on other social media networks (YouTube, Reddit, etc.).

I think it's pretty obvious that the reason is that there are even less women here than other places online. What are your ideas on how to change that? Or do you feel it is a lost cause?

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cross-posted from: https://kbin.social/m/mensliberation@lemmy.ca/t/623593

Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

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But ladies: brace yourselves. There’s a new one in town...

Last night, I received an unsolicited message from a man – on eBay.

Yes, you heard right: the online shopping portal.

What could the man who tracked me down on eBay hope to find out about me? Is it my penchant for mismatched china, all the better to pour Hendrick’s gin from, at ill-advised Sunday afternoon tea parties? Perhaps it’s my obsession with the exact shade of lipstick favoured by Sylvia Plath?

What he was actually doing, in fact, was going out of his way to contact me to tell me how wrong and how stupid I was; how I “don’t understand capitalism”. So incensed was this stranger, by a tongue-in-cheek piece I’d written sympathising with a Gen Z TikToker who went viral for crying about her first job after graduation, that he went all out to track me down.

"Globally, women’s health is often focused on reproductive and maternal health, aligned with narrow anti-feminist definitions of women’s value and roles in society, while cancer remains wholly underrepresented."

Conversation ongoing over there, inviting anyone who wants to participate to please consider sharing their thoughts if they are willing to. If you wanna post in the original thread from your instance copy and paste the link into your instances search panel

As I said in the thread, if you aren't comfortable posting feel free to DM me here or on matrix and I can post anonymously for you.