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What is a gender neutral replacement for man, guys, buddy, etc? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So I've realized that in conversations I'll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I've been thinking that it's not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

"What's up guys?" "How's it going man?" "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y'all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

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[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Later Cheesebags!

[–] tkk13909@sopuli.xyz 10 points 2 years ago (2 children)

*Stay Fresh Cheese Bags

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[–] quinkin@lemmy.world 11 points 2 years ago

Gang

[–] lone_faerie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 years ago

Peeps

[–] no_time_like_the@lemmy.world 11 points 2 years ago

You could copy Scooby do and refer to the group of people as 'gang', 'team' works too

[–] kaffiene@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Buddy is masculine?

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[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 years ago

"Gentels and Ladymen“

[–] pearable@lemmy.ml 10 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Folks for groups and friend for individuals is my go to. Comrade if you want to be spicy

[–] NENathaniel@lemmy.ca 10 points 2 years ago

Peeps

[–] echo@lemmings.world 10 points 2 years ago

all friends everyone folks peeps team

If you're only addressing one person then it can be left off entirely.

[–] mipadaitu@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago

What's poppin primates‽‽‽

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago

cumsplats

[–] sjmulder@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Guy:innen

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[–] Davidvanb@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago

Friend

[–] plantedworld@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I've started using "hello chums"

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[–] OneCardboardBox@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 2 years ago

"What's up dog turds?"

"How's it hanging, dingleberry?"

"Nice job, Captain Hazelwood!"

I do actually know someone who speaks like this.

[–] StupidBrotherInLaw@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Whenever there's any question, I usually open with "sup, dogs" in my most serious voice, then continue to deadpan refer to everyone as dog, such as "and you, dog, I need to check the grist mill, thank you dog". Fifteen years in and no complaints so far.

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[–] Blizzard@lemmy.zip 8 points 2 years ago

Chooms

[–] Mojo@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Bitch or bitches

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[–] hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Matey/mateys, scallywags

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