So the problem with this is that it's falsely equating chauvinism and mysoginy with woke and feminism.

Feminist theory spans many different ideas, but at its heart is about creating more equity between the sexes. The motivating force of feminism arose at a time where women couldn't control their bodies, their families, or even their finances. Women could even get their own credit cards until 1975.

People will claim that it's different now and that everyone is legally equal, but systemically there's still a lot of work to do. The vast majority of the hierarchical control of this country are positions held mostly by men. From politicians, CEO, lawyers, judges, and even police officers, these are all mostly men and are increasingly becoming more conservative.

You can't create equity by pretending were all equals, but then ignore the fact that laws are being passed to control only one of the sexes.

This sounds a lot like the “everything will be better if we just act colorblind” fallacy. Gender is a social construct, sure, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t demonstrably affect how people who strongly buy into performing a given gender behave.

all i know is that men and women both hate it if you don't treat them like 'men' and 'women'.

people generally enjoy sexism, especially if it is beneficial to them.