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This, folks, is a perfect example of projection. OP is a gay man and has worried that others judge him for his preference, so he judges others for the same thing.
The healthy thing of course would be to learn to let it roll off his back, and in calming that, he would calm his own worry about others judging him.
That strong anti natalist sentiment is palpable
I don't think the statement is bad, but I can see why many wouldn't want to hear it in detail.
“I put a thick load in my wife last night”
“My husband cums inside me all the time now”
I think these are way worse
Yeah, no one needs to know your fella is rawdogging you regularly. Telling us when you're actually pregnant makes more sense.
What's the difference between "we're trying to have a baby" and "we've tried and we're having a baby"?
Yeah... Personally, I'd rather hear that a couple is trying for a baby over the bigoted shit I usually hear at work.
op doesnt seem to get any
No, he hates pussy, and anything that makes him think of pussy, honestly Dan Savage (famous advice gay) has the same hang up. I respect it.
I would also jump to the first conclusion that OP is oversexualizing stuff, but on the other hand, there are many other ways to give the information which doesn't induce pictures in brains od people who are very visually oriented. "We hope/plan to have kids in the near future/soon/within a year or two".
Same as we don't need to know people have blasting diarrhea, enough to say they have digestive problems or stomach pain.
But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"
I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.
It's not that crazy, but it's a little uncomfortable to basically just be told that 2 people are rawdogging. It's nowhere near nausea inducing, and it's not really a sexual discussion. Would I rather not hear it? Of course. Is it that bad? Not really.
If someone uses that occasion to turn to you and ask if you’re ever going to have a kid, just respond with “not unless I’ve got ovaries on my tonsils!” And then somehow that’s a visit with HR.
Could go even further and announce you're practicing how it's done. Even without trying for a baby. And like you're constantly getting better... Or lost 2 pounds due to the additional workout...
"Went to the doctor to put a load in a plastic cup so they could insert it with a medical tool."
"We are getting IVF treatment, so we froze some medically inseminated eggs to omplant mater, but wanted to sound like everyone else when saying we were trying because it is frustrating finding out getting pregnant is a lot more difficult for us than other people."
Are those better?
I'm the wrong person to judge. I'm completely indifferent. I'd say "good for you" but really couldn't care less. Unless that was my boss or mom or something...