Holy fuck I'm glad I'm not growing up now. This whole "incel" thong just makes me so fucking mad.
We have a subset of adolescent males who are harassed amd bullied and depressed and self-destructive, and how does the rest of socirty respond? The best they can manage is to gridgingly say things like:
You can both condemn their ideology and find it abhorrent and also remember that we need to have empathy for these people."
Many people—women especially—might find that a tall order, and Beckett-Herbert understands that reluctance. "I do understand people's hesitancy to empathize with them, because it feels like you're giving credence to their rhetoric," she said. "But at the end of the day, they are human, and a lot of them are really struggling, marginalized people coming from pretty sad backgrounds. When you peruse their online world, it's the most horrifying, angering misogyny right next to some of the saddest mental health, suicidal, low self-esteem stuff you've ever seen. I think humanizing them and having empathy is going to be foundational to any intervention efforts to reintegrate them. But it's something I wrestle with a lot."
How nice. You think maybe you should try to empathize with them and remember that they are human beings, but gee... that's a tall order. You're not sure if you can actually do it.
And then you have the gall to wonder why they exist - how they got to be that way. You should, if you genuinely want to do something about them, be offering them help to deal with their struggles before they even get to that stage. But no - you won't do that. Fuck them - they're boys, so they're on their own.
We can care about the well-being of women and girls and also acknowledge that young men are struggling, too. Those don't have to be at odds."
So that's the best you can do? You "care about" girls and women but can only maybe manage to "acknowleedge" boys and men? And you still don't understand the appeal of the manosphere?
"There is evidence that men who are short or not conventionally attractive are discriminated against in hiring.
So right there - there is evidence that one of the things the incel community complains about is in fact true.
But do you even acknowledge it? Nope.
"But there's also a lot of evidence suggesting that this actually affects women more. Women who are overweight face a greater bias against them in hiring than men do, for example."
You just breeze right past it and dismiss their feelings entirely, because girls and women have it worse.
Seriously, you still don't get how we ended up with a generation of boys who think the world shits on them and girls and women get preferential treatment? Even after you just shat on them and gave girls preferential treatment?
Here's va fucking news flash, since so many people are apparentlybtoo fucking stupid to figure itvout - if you all actually cared about thecstruggles boys are going through and listened to them and took them seriously and tried to help them, they wouldn't have to turn to the manosphere to find someone who gives a shit about them.
It's not complicated, so you have no fucking excuse. Stop belittling boys and treating their problems as if they somehow don't count.
If the best you can manage is to maybe "acknoeledge" boys' problems, even as you "care about" girls', and you can't even mention a problem boys experience without immediately shifting your focus away from them and to girls, then the boys aren't the real problem - you are.