That I didn't know who I was. My lack of self awareness hampered my growth trajectory, my maturity, and relationships. My first failed marriage was a pinnacle of this issue. Though, fast forward 5 years, I'm a vastly different person, know who I am and what I want and where I want to end up. I feel guilty for my ex wife and the impact I had on them. I hope they're happier where ever they may be.
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That sounds super healthy actually. Good outlook to have. We all make mistakes, what matters is if we learned from them.
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I only exist to care for the people I love, and without them I have nothing else to organize my life around.
Codependency is a bitch. But itβs never too late to start differentiating yourself.
This one burns me to the core, and echoes my life. It scares me to know, that without that, I am truly alone
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For me it was the discovery that my parents were shitty people on the narcissism spectrum. I had no clue, because when you grow up in a toxic environment, it's your "normal" and all you know.
That not only am I not a good person, it's mostly impossible for a person to be truly good. Even knowing what good is, in its entirety, is nigh impossible. The best that can be done isn't necessarily within my energy and/or skill.
There are wrongs that cannot meaningfully be righted.
Doing a little good some of the time is the most I can ever aspire to.
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None of my hobbies will last as long as I want and thats okay
ADHD, my hobby is collecting hobbies.
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I really am kind of messy but it's because I work so much I don't have time to do anything properly at all. I always feel frantic.