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I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[–] TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

Sounds like fighting words..

[–] Aradia@lemmy.ml 5 points 10 months ago

When they are insulting should mean that they have no arguments... maybe they have issues on their life. Who knows, but it's a waste of time to reply to them.

[–] Lath@kbin.social 5 points 10 months ago

Yes. Yes you are.
This vibe has been here from the start. But it was kept at bay by defederating left and right from "troublemakers".
Problem is actual troublemakers don't care where they are. All they have to do is make a new account and keep on troubling.
So all the isolation managed to do is slow down the conflict, make it less visible. And it worked too.
Yet you can't stop the fighting, not for long anyway.

We have to fight, have to make drama. Peaceful living is too boring all the time.

[–] Yoz@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

That's just normal behavior of human beings.

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[–] ShellMonkey@lemmy.socdojo.com 5 points 10 months ago

I haven't really noted a shift, but there's always a few folks in a given place, real or virtual, that are absolutely unwilling to take a nuanced view. My way or the highway and all that. Hard to have a historical view though when a major part of the users have all come on board in the last 7-8 months, me included.

[–] bhamlin@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)
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[–] nutsack@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (3 children)

every time I see a full page meme in the middle of a comments thread I want to punch a hole right through its face

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[–] clearleaf@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

Not just the comments. It used to be page 4 or 5 where the hate/rage content would start appearing in the top posts. But it's been creeping up, and now even page 1 looks pretty bad sometimes. I bet even Americans are starting to feel alienated if they're not perpetually angry.

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

A couple days ago someone was trying to debatebro me I told them to eff off and that I wasn't going to humor their bad-faith ass.

Was expecting to get hate for it but instead woke up to 20 votes on the comment. It's awesome.

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[–] rab@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago (16 children)

Yeah I've given this place an honest try but people are so quick to downvote, it's not exactly encouraging me to actively post here

Also I notice the same 10 assholes in every thread

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[–] snausagesinablanket@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Especially the grammar Nazis that floated here on a turd from the reddit cesspool.

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[–] iAvicenna@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I kinda started getting that feeling too but I thought that was because I started getting more involved in discussions and political ones more. Before it was mainly quick comments for me. Anyways if someone starts to insult or deliberately distort what I am saying by cherry picking combinations of words from my comments, I put on my "three words at most troll hat" and the discussion dies pretty quickly. No point in writing a paragraph for a comment if the other person is just gonna take one word out of it and bash the rest with it.

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