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[–] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 314 points 1 week ago (8 children)
[–] Nomecks@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I'm at a loss.

Quality content 👌🏽✨

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 70 points 1 week ago

beautiful thank you

[–] KryptoSynth@ani.social 40 points 1 week ago

this hits the funny

[–] Phantaminum@lemmy.zip 40 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] celeste@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Looks like there's a Celeste Among Us…

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[–] Oxen@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] AwakenedAce@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Indeed why dating?

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 102 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Simple: Guys should just date each other! The girls can then watch with their gfs 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨👀👭

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 6 days ago

Imagine dating men…

[–] Frozzie@lemmy.world 46 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I will become the girl instead

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[–] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 64 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (13 children)
[–] Zwiebel@feddit.org 57 points 1 week ago

The point is to take care of your hygiene, if showering less is enough for you that's great

[–] vzq@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago

“Not strictly necessary”, please stop you’ll sweep me off my feet!

[–] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Not at the top of that list are ya

[–] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)

At least my eczema's getting better, you ass.

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[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 week ago (3 children)

While you're right, it's missing the forest for the trees. It's just quippy way of saying "takes care of one's hygiene"

But yes, it's mostly a common myth that you have to shower every day, ideally do what feels right/works for you to have a good hygiene

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[–] felykiosa@sh.itjust.works 56 points 1 week ago (5 children)

That s not true , of course doing the basic minimum of a normal human IS required but its not enough to have a gf today. The loneliness epidemic is real and not all lonely guy are complete moron. Personally I think one major factor is the privatization of love.

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 47 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Wow this has a lot of up votes. Of course the loneliness epidemic is real but why blame something nebulous like the privatization of love when capitalism is right there. There's a profit motive in getting people to work longer hours for less pay and have less free time to build community

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 51 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Don't forget the commodification of all the 3rd places so now there's no real place for people to interact without having to spend money

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Very thankful my community has public libraries, churches, community bike shops, makerspaces, etc because I know they're declining in some places, churches especially (too bad they're religious and they can't just switch to community organizations) also civic clubs like Rotary and lions club.

Can't take those orgs for granted they decay without involvement

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[–] syreus@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago (19 children)

Ask someone out for coffee. Talk about your week. Ask about theirs. Don't treat the interaction as a pass/fail. Repeat. If you have mutual attraction then nature will play out.

Doing the bare minimum hygiene and the appearance of happiness drastically improves your chances.

Dating is for finding someone you enjoy being around. Sex is a result of growing closer.

Obviously some people have it easier than others but I have peers that just refuse to ask people out for coffee or a lunch. I'm a late millennial if that matters.

Be a decent person and if a love interest doesn't personally find you attractive they WILL tell their friends. NEVER talk poorly about your previous relationships. Learn a few jokes.

The privatization of love is a real problem but the classic approach isn't dead.

[–] SomethingBurger@jlai.lu 23 points 1 week ago (19 children)

Ask someone out for coffee

Who?

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[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 54 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Lol the attractive guy turns into a femboy ;3

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 week ago (5 children)

The attractive "guy" is a transbian (trans lesbian) :3

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[–] AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 36 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 27 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Allegedly he's some Mexican bootleg version of Tate.

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[–] norevisit@lemmy.world 35 points 1 week ago (7 children)

I'd like to think I am the guy the arrows are pointing to but I am still chronically single 🥲🥲🥲 its okay, life is good but still I do get lonely sometimes

[–] SomethingBurger@jlai.lu 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)
  1. Be attractive
  2. Don't be unattractive
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[–] BluesF@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm sorry it was me. Now I transitioned so I'm the one in the bottom picture too 😎

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[–] wertyuiop@feddit.rocks 26 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)
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[–] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'd like to note: neurodivergent people generally only become close with other neurodivergent people (NOT ALWAYS). neurodivergent people are a much smaller portion of society, and a lot of these people will be bullied or put down growing up and lose their self worth. EVEN IF they manage to regain their self worth completely, they generally have trouble communicating with people, and will generally have mild to negative social interactions. Now the people who have the most trouble interacting have to interact with 5x as many people since they likely would only become close with other neurodivergent people. I hope that's obvious how insanely unfair that is.

Stuff like this is pretty hurtful to those people, because if this is all it takes for most people, hey I must really be worthless then because I've already done all this and I tried a hobby and I tried asking people out and none of it works! To those people, sorry you have to deal with this, you deserve someone who will be happy to be with you. I promise there are people out there that will value you specifically for who you are, even if they're more rare. You can try joining things that you think will have people you'd enjoy hanging out with, whether that be playing games at a comic book shop or joining a dnd group, a choir, a band, or any niche interest you have (for me this is learning languages, and I met two of the coolest people I've ever met through that)

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[–] TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

Misandry is not going to help anyone but misogynists

[–] hydroptic@sopuli.xyz 20 points 1 week ago (3 children)

And what exactly was "misandrist" in this meme?

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[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Don't make it so obvious....

It's hard enough to find someone already. Like - ok fine I get it, yes, being a lesbian (or bi) feels like the only way anyway, cuz like yeah, how can you not like girls. I find that somewhat hard to imagine.

but that turns into a bad thing, because all of a sudden you have all these super pretty girls in the dating space and they are all prettier, smarter and more comfy cozy than you!!! I feel this is especially the case when transfem (but what do i know)

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[–] QueenHawlSera@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You will never find a man to sweep you off your feet, because sweeping is a woman's job. Mrrowl

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