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Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.

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[–] chillBurner@lemmy.ml 5 points 4 days ago (15 children)

Uh, yes, but its a mutual misunderstanding from both sides...

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[–] Sasha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

That's a pretty reasonable misunderstanding, I don't speak for anyone but myself but generally as long as there's no malice involved I'm not upset by an accidental misgendering.

I'm on jerboa too and didn't even know there were specific pronouns on accounts, I just chucked mine in my bio.

[–] Edie@lemmy.ml 2 points 4 days ago

There aren't specific pronouns. One can just use the display name option to add pronouns

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 5 points 4 days ago

Its an honest mistake and I think if you appealed the ban you'd have a good case for it, however as you now know that's the trans flag you can be more mindful in future :)

[–] flashgnash@lemm.ee 3 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Generally I wouldn't take that kind of thing too seriously from hexbears they love conflict and actively seek it out

[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I lurk quite a bit, rarely comment or post. Have seen a lot of complaints about the Hexbearers, didn't think they were too bad (well there are accounts on there that do seem to like to push Russian/Chinese talking points frequently + consistently). However overall the community provides some high quality content/insight.

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[–] toxicbubble420@beehaw.org 3 points 4 days ago

i would block all those people and move forward with my life

[–] SweetCitrusBuzz@beehaw.org 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

No, it shouldn't necessarily be an expectation to check. However, if you don't then I think it's a reasonable expectation to not gender someone one way or another unless you do know or are corrected, using they/them and other neutral ways of referring to someone like person etc is the best idea if you can't or don't feel up to checking.

[–] krimsonbun@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago

when unsure or lazy i use they/them

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