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[–] TrontheTechie@infosec.pub 3 points 2 years ago (7 children)

This is why I don’t fuck guys who “don’t pay attention to politics”.

That means one thing, and it isn’t that they are blissfully unaware of the day to day happenings in their town, county, state, region, country, or planet of residence.

[–] medgremlin@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

It depends on why they don't pay attention to politics. Personally, I kind of have to go ostrich-mode and bury my head in the sand when school gets stressful because I just don't have the mental bandwidth to deal with both. I'm not going to judge someone too harshly for protecting their mental health from the absolute shitshow that is the American political landscape.

PS: This is not to say that any degree of modern conservatism is okay. Bigots can go fuck themselves and I'd be out punching Nazis and being a medic at protests if it didn't jeopardize my future so significantly. (Felony convictions make it really hard to get a medical license and I have to pay off my student loans somehow. Besides, I'll be in a much better position to make a meaningful difference as a physician than as a heavily indebted student or EMT.)

[–] b3nsn0w@pricefield.org 1 points 2 years ago

this. you can pay little attention to politics without being a "centrist" who isn't actually a centrist. news can be depressing as fuck, i'm hella glad i strongly limited my consumption of them, but that doesn't mean i'm gonna start both-sidesing shit. (with the exception of tankies vs nazis, because those two are in fact the same authoritarian, anti-west, bigoted crap under different flags that love to larp against each other)

[–] PostmodernPythia@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Eh, sometimes it means another thing, namely that they know their conservatism is off-putting to most women and they’re lying to get you into bed.

[–] xHoudek@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That’s exactly what OP is saying

[–] PostmodernPythia@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I was responding to the previous comment, not OP. OP was saying conservatives get upset when people won’t sleep with them because they’re conservative. From the text of the comment I responded to, it looks like the person is saying “moderates” just don’t care about anyone but themselves. I’m adding that often the people the actual OP is talking about pretend to be the moderates the previous commenter is discussing.

[–] Lilli@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago

The person you responded to initially is talking about conservatives hiding that about themselves lol. That's why they said it the way they did.

[–] ophelia@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

This is my go-to response whenever anyone wants to start talking politics with me. Mainly because whenever someone wants to talk politics it's usually not because they're liberal and I really hate talking with people who just want to prove that their opinion is the right one.

[–] TurtleJoe@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I bartend. I was working on Easter, and one of our semi regulars came in with a guy that she was obviously on a drink date with. They'd been at at least one other bar before they came in; they'd had a couple drinks, but weren't past maybe tipsy.

At one point, she mentioned that the reason the last place they'd been to was slow was likely that it happened to be Easter. At the mention of the word the guy interrupted with,

"I REFUSE TO TALK ABOUT ANY POLITICS OR RELIGION!!"

To me this was a sign that this dude cared very much about religion and politics, but just like how scientologists don't drop the Xenu shit on you right away, he wanted to wait until any prospective partner was in too deep before revealing how abhorrent his views are.

That regular isn't my favorite person, but I was proud of her for pretty much ending that date after that.

[–] SquareRouteCanal@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That’s literally a bar rule. Lol. Alcohol makes people talk like they are on the internet in real life. Doesn’t make sense to discuss nuance when you’ve been drinking especially with the touchy subjects.

[–] complacent_jerboa@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Alcohol makes people talk like they are on the internet in real life

fucking lol

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[–] Lunar@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 years ago (11 children)

Good lord the replies to this are sad. Believe it or not it's a perfectly reasonable expectation to only want to date someone whose core beliefs align with yours (and, y'know, actually respects your rights as an independent human being.)

[–] Syrc@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

As someone with a right-wing father and a left-wing mother: for fuck’s sake date people with your same beliefs. Deep disagreement on something like that is NOT something you can build a trustful relationship upon.

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[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

"in looking for a woman who will respect my core beliefs as an independent human being, which include not treating her like an independent human being"

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[–] Nerdybynature@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The last conservative I matched with was immediately bragging about being unvaccinated, was in his late 30’s, openly religious, desperate for kids.

If you’re openly conservative, you’re baring your soul about women’s rights, and if women don’t want to sleep with you as a result, you made your damn bed.

[–] Tb0n3@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Some women dig that. Not every woman believes the same things you do. There's even a thing called the quiver full movement where people like the duggars deliberately have as many children as possible to outnumber people like you.

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[–] HornyOnMain@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

ngl, last time some conservative started flirting with me she got pissed of when i said i wasnt interested because they were a tory flag shagger, and then she called me a slur because im queer

[–] ruination@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 years ago

It's like how kids throw meaningless insults when throwing a tantrum because they know they can't win in a proper argument.

[–] avidamoeba@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 years ago

Fuck 'em. No wait, don't.

[–] Kinda_Coral@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Call that the free market economy biiiaaatch

[–] popemichael@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I almost dated a conservative but covid saved me.

The moment it hit, her conservative powers went omega level and I was able to dodge a bullet by wanting to vaccinate early

[–] theangryseal@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (5 children)

Well, just you wait. You be dead by CHRISTmas 2021. That wat you get to.

Either you be dead or you be turned too zombie to be controlled by Fow-chi Chinese army.

This hole thing poplation control. Wat wuflu dont kill, vaxine will. Or zombie like I said.

Mark my world. Ded by CHRISTmas 2021. Mark my world

Soros. Hoosane Obama. Fow-chi. Biden. CNN. That ur god.

She dodge the bullet.

:p

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[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's not true; I'd date someone I could reasonably discuss fiscal policy about taxation with.

So maybe it's not so much they won't date you because you're conservative and more that you're openly embracing fascism....

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Why is it the only time I ever hear the word "fiscal" is when a conservative is defending their entire half of the political sphere 😂 let's all look past the human rights abuses and absurd gerrymandering/rigging of the entire democratic system and just think about the "fiscal responsibility" aspect (That, paradoxically, only ever actually seems to drive the national debt up faster when conservatives are in charge)

[–] WheeGeetheCat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago

'fiscal conservative' = supports tax cuts for the rich because they believe in trickle-down theory, still, somehow

[–] Thteven@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

What could be more fiscally responsible than not paying off your debts?

[–] Marketsupreme@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

PPP loan forgiveness for everyone (except the working class that's not for you you greedy bastards)

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Companies=bailed, students=get fucked (fiscal responsibility 😎)

[–] grissee@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

posts like these make me wish lemmy has sort by controversial button

[–] Lazylazycat@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Why would anyone date a conservative, it isn't safe?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Even if it was safe like ew you don’t believe in equality that’s just unattractive af

[–] NewEnglandRedshirt@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Your username indicates you don't do much dating of men... (Not that it invalidates your point)

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

There are absolutely conservative queer women, they’re very much not the sort of person you want to date

[–] PostmodernPythia@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Women can be conservatives too. Still gross.

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[–] Dasnap@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Imagine dating someone whose beliefs actively belittle you.

[–] evdo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago

Yeah. Regardless of what actions they personally take, they do advocate and vote for your death.

[–] RobertPetersen@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Well, Republicans tend to vote for policies that go against their own self-interests if they get boogeyman’s enough by Tucker and Donald, so it wouldn’t surprise me that there exist Conservative women who date against their own self interests.

[–] dottedgreenline@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Being ok with being conservative is akin to being ok with being stupid. It's basically an admission of idiocy.

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