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What kind of situations led them to that place and what do you think the solutions were respectively?
In both cases the conversations took place via texts and calls. First occasion was a friend who was being harassed and had a bunch of other not-so-great things happening in their life and they turned to me, telling me that they had the means of killing themselves right next to them. They were being harassed over an aspect of their physical appearance. I told them not to do it, because with every interaction I had with them, they were always so nice, which left an impression on me, and the opinions of anyone so vile as to harass someone for their appearance is not worth even considering. I said more than that, the conversation went on for quite a long time and then it gradually turned into more casual talk and then "see you tomorrow" at school.
Second occasion was a friend who was going through problems with a relationship. I often ask my friends how they're doing as kind of a habit, so this time they said they weren't doing well, and told me about how they felt. They didn't have a family who would listen so I was just there for them, listened to them and offered my input telling them things would get better, giving them some advice on what I'd say or do in that situation, and if they ever needed someone to talk or game with I'd always be there for them. They're doing well now!