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Take it from me op. Drop the imposter stuff in your relationship, that can kill a relationship. I very nearly lost my wife early on because "I just can't believe you want to be with me". That isn't attractive.
They like you, that's why they're with you. They weren't tricked, you didn't fool them, they like you. Who you are. All you gotta do is like them back :)
The best way to deal with imposter syndrome is to remember what got you here. All the things you do and did that other people can't or aren't willing to do.
I know a girl who just left her boyfriend because he didn't show affection, didn't try on dates, and just stopped trying altogether. Imagine the average person, then 50% of them being worse than that. Surely we can convince ourselves we're above average if only slightly.