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Spank a girl (feddit.it)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by banana_meccanica@feddit.it to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 

I was spanken on butt by a girl today, immediately I returned the spank to her butt as an instinct, and she says "no you can't." What does that mean?

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[โ€“] Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

He literally said he was spanked on the butt without his consent. No assumptions were made here period.

This is the reason why male sexual assault isn't taken seriously, and why male victims have even less recourse then female victims. Anytime a man is assaulted, it's always brushed off as 'it's not a big deal' or 'it doesn't count cause she's a girl' or 'man up and just take it', often by other men. It's as if consent stops mattering if you have a penis or are male identifying.

Imagine if the genders were reversed and how outraged you would be. As a woman who has had this exact thing done to me before, I know. It's not a matter of how much it hurts to be spanked, it's a matter of losing your agency over your own body and feeling like a piece of meat.

[โ€“] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

Additionally, if it wasn't on his ass it'd still be battery. Sexual assault is pretty clearly defined to include slapping someone's ass and, just generally, don't touch other people.