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I had a high school math teacher who had me convinced I was too stupid to do the assignments. I literally couldn't do high school algebra. I had an average of 11% in that class, and she would tell everyone their grades each quarter. Out loud, in front of the class, and I had an 11%. Questions were met with "You really should know how to do this".
25 years later, and my lemmy shitposting is interrupted by a meeting where intelligent and talented people discuss drawings of a proposed building. Drawings that were created by me. For the building I was paid to design.
I can math just fine, when someone takes the time to show me how. Algebra, geometry, trig, I can do them all. But when I was a teenager, a supposedly smart and educated person had me convinced I couldn't figure it out.
I got told all through high school and college I was bad at art. Turns out I just had to learn differently than what they were doing and I'm not bad at it. I draw, paint minis, pixel art, some 3d now and am really happy with my work. Same thing with music I can't wrap my head around reading music so teachers all told me I wasn't a creative type. But hand me an instrument that is intuitive to me and I'm actually decent at playing along to things or making my own music.
It can take so long to convince yourself that teachers were wrong about your capabilities. I didn't unlearn all that self deprecation until my mid/late twenties.