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I was assigned male at birth but have increasingly started to notice over the years that other guys don't have a big notch on either side of their torsos like I do. It's my pelvic bone. I would go to a doctor to see what they had to say but they've seen me plenty of times and said absolutely nothing about being intersex and now I live in a rural conservative area and they don't seem to diagnose the same way in hardly anything that is a conservative third rail. I just seem to have a really wide pelvis just like a female. Everything else seems male. I am a very normal weight so it's not fat tissue - its clearly bone. I just feel gaslit over it and have been trying to gauge perceptions people have of me in my life in order to get on with things. I hate to turn to the internet but this is driving me crazy. I need something to work with, somewhere to start.

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Possibly but possibly not. If it were fully considered an intersex condition it would be even more common to be intersex than previously believed. Though as someone intersex (urogenital structure and chimerism) who had that trait you may have other small stuff

[–] Fisherman75@lemmy.world -5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Like what? What else might I have? I'm going mostly by appearances. I guess my voice never completely broke and I'm already 30 but I thought that might be kallmann syndrome or similar.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

So, one of the most common intersex conditions amongst male folk is Klinefelter syndrome. It's basically where you end up with an X and Y chromosome, but also have a second X chromosome (so XXY).

The symptoms are subtle, and most people are never even aware they have it. But symptoms include wider hips, taller than average height, reduced fertility, reduced puberty (so not as much body hair, voice doesn't drop as deep etc) and sometimes, slight development of breast tissue

[–] Fisherman75@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I have this pelvic bone thing. I'm 5' 10.25", I think average for men is 5' 9". A lot of puberty things have been lagging including my apache beard, virtually no hair on torso or arms, squeaky crackly young sounding half broken voice, and yeah exactly slight development of breast tissue. No one has ever said anything about my chromosomes though.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 9 months ago

Well, a doctor can test for it by requesting a karyotype, which will show your chromosomes, including if you have XY or XXY

[–] TranscendentalEmpire@lemm.ee 3 points 9 months ago

You probably just have a little bit of an anterior pelvic tilt. The boney prominence that you are talking about, the one that is more commonly visible in women is just the iliac crest.

Everyone have them, but your weight and pelvic tilt determine how visible they are. Women typically have up to 4 degrees of anterior tilt, while most men are in a more neutral position.

Men can have anterior tilts and be perfectly healthy, but It can also be a symptom from anything from bad posture to a limb length discrepancy. It should be fine, but I would consult a physician if you start losing range of motion or start having hip or lower back pain.