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Are they less likely to behave this way after meeting you or is this sentence the essence of how you would react to their behavior?
(I haven't done any of the things mentioned and they are inappropriate, but in retrospective think that maybe I should have, since being too polite and shy at the same time is apparently even less attractive, and reduces experience in communication, which is the only way one can learn to communicate.)
Just like there are lots of jerks and incels, there are lots of really nice shy guys that would make the world a better place by opening up a little more. Being brave at making contact is totally acceptable, and probably good for you, if you do it in a respectful manner. Actual nice guys should drown out the jerks that are self proclaimed nice guys by treating women, men and themselves with respect.
Should, yes. They don't always. And there are still far more than enough guys (and people) who do nothing when they see women (or others) treated very poorly but men/boys. I sort of understand college and high school, everyone is exploring and unsure what's ok, and observers may be entirely unsure what to do.
It's pretty common for a bunch of people to see something bad happen and everyone think someone should do something without realizing they are someone who could do something.
So you first said they try to do/offer to do something like walk you home, buy you something, etc. and you said you don't want that. Now here you say you want them to do something, in particular when they see something bad happening (i think you meant when they see girl treated poorly by a boy/man). That seems kind of confusing.
If someone wants to try making friends, it's reasonable for them to try and start a conversation. If the person they are pursuing isn't interested, LEAVE THEM ALONE. CONSENT IS IMPORTANT.
If I'm screaming for help, if I'm being attacked, if I cannot defend myself, even if you see someone not respecting someone else's consent, help the person who's consent is not being respected. CONSENT IS IMPORTANT.
Hope this helps.